GENDER BIASED VIRGINITY

Yes! from an Indian perspective, anyone would realize that this time I am venturing into a topic which comes in the category of being a Taboo. However, am sure the title must have brought about some confusion because this is not a usual thought connected with virginity.
So the underlying question here is- Is virginity gender biased?

Have you ever wondered which gender would have a higher number of virgins? No? Let me help you ponder in this unusual line of thought with regard to virginity. So I ask you now- which gender or sex (male or female) do you think has a higher number of virgins? Referring to the Indian context, most of us would immediately answer that more females are virgins. Now let us look at this statement, which seems to be a fact, from a calculative perspective.

Virginity is lost when a male/female has intercourse with his/her counterpart. So, a virgin is a person who has not had sex. Now, when we think about whether a higher number of males are virgins or females, instantly our sharp mind tells us that the answer is obviously females. However, we fail to take into account that when a male loses his virginity he loses it to a female only (not taking homosexuality into account). So, for every non virgin male, there is a non virgin female and vice versa. However, there is an exception when a female has sex with more than one virgin male and also when one male has sex with more than one virgin female.

Since we are discussing this in the Indian context, let us consider the generalizations of this context. In the Indian society, it is thought that males are sexually much more active than females. This comes from the hypocritical aspect of our society in which it is okay for a man to b sexually active but not a woman. Hence, keeping this in mind, it is clear that a man has higher chances of having sexual relationship with more than one woman.

So, analyzing the calculative perspective, we can see that we have more virgins in the male gender, contrary to the popular belief. Also, as per statistics, proportion of males in our population is much higher and thus it further validates that there are more male virgins.

Who’s Your Father Figure??

Genetically anybody can be a Father but to be perceived as a ‘Father Figure’ is a challenge in itself. A Father Figure would be an important individual in one’s life who possesses the qualities of a Father, yet is not biologically related to you.
As we grow up we form our own definitions of things and people. Most of such definitions are more diverse than the number of hair on a human head but still some definitions are very much similar to each other. Some are even universally accepted and understood. ‘Father’ –is one word which comes under such a definition. A Father Figure is someone whom we believe to be a strong person, someone who can be relied upon all the time, someone who knows the right thing to do, someone who can just set things in perspective for us, a person with lot of knowledge, someone who can be anyone for our good-serious, humorous, emotional, lenient, strict, fun etc, someone who provides an awesome blend of emotions with practicality, all in all someone who is able to teach us how to be the best. A Father Figure is able to teach us without even letting us know that we are learning and we unknowingly strive to be like him because of the numerous examples he keeps setting for us of being the ‘Ideal man’.
Some people find their Father Figure very late in life, some are never able to figure out who their Father Figure is and there are few lucky ones who do not need to look for a Father Figure. It took me years to realize who my Father Figure is but I still consider myself very lucky that I was able to at least find him. People mostly find their Father Figure as they move along in life but I was privileged enough to have moved along with my Father Figure. He can rightfully call me his son as he is not only my Father Figure but he is ‘MY ‘FATHER’- ‘My Paa’. He is much more than what a Father Figure should be and nothing less than what the best Father could be.
This blog is dedicated to my dad on his 58 birthday. I would like to this opportunity to express some parts of my love and respect towards him. Paa, you are my idol in so many ways that the virtues itself sometimes run out to provide you the chance to set an example for me. But time and again you have given me enough reasons to be proud of you and to feel very lucky and gifted to have a Father like you. I would like to thank you with all my heart for always being there.
Paa, I still remember how people used to get shocked and asked you your age whenever I was introduced as your son. And it was even more amusing to look at their reactions when they would find out that am the younger one ;). Well I can only hope that I could be half as graceful as you are and would love to hear from others that you are like your Father.
Thank You Paa!! Wish you a very happy birthday. May you have many more.

The Dependant Independence!!

What is being ‘Independent’? Is it just a feeling or a phenomenon? When do we say that we are independent? Isn’t it when we think we can act or behave in the way we wish or intend to, irrespective of other factors involved? But, if we really began to ponder, we might come to realize that it’s not possible to act independently without completely relying on certain other factors. Let’s ponder by looking at some simple examples:
1. Crossing the road: - Let’s analyze the statement when someone says, ‘I can cross the road on my own.’ To be able to cross the road, isn’t this person being fully dependant on others rationale and road sense. Is he not relying on the fact that no one is going to try to hurt him if he follows traffic rules? Would he be able to cross the road the same way if he was unsure if people want to avoid a hit? Since he is not even thinking about such factors, isn’t he completely relying on them? Clearly, it would not be wrong to say that he is completely dependent on such factors to cross the road.
2. Financial independence needs finance: - Often we hear the term ‘financial independence’. In fact, this is what most of us strive for at different times in our lives. According to Wikipedia, ‘Financial independence’ is a term generally used to describe the state of having sufficient personal wealth to live indefinitely without having to work actively for basic necessities. The very definition includes a condition. Hence, even this form of independence is dependent on the wealth you possess.
Such a view makes one wonder that if things are interdependent then how or why the word ‘independence’ was even created. Does it really exit or is it just one word for less or specific dependence? The degree of dependence required for ‘independence’ is of course contextual, but is does make one wonder if one can be independent.